Dallas, 2019 | Episode 5
Season 26 Episode 7 | 48m 3sVideo has Audio Description, Closed Captions
The final episode of Dallas, 2019 poses the question: What does it mean to be alive?
Featuring intimate stories of workers and young people—the chief medical examiner, a hospital worker, an auto body shop owner, and a high school senior—who all in their own ways make Dallas what it is, the final episode of Dallas, 2019 poses the question: What does it mean to be alive?
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Season 26 Episode 7 | 48m 3sVideo has Audio Description, Closed Captions
Featuring intimate stories of workers and young people—the chief medical examiner, a hospital worker, an auto body shop owner, and a high school senior—who all in their own ways make Dallas what it is, the final episode of Dallas, 2019 poses the question: What does it mean to be alive?
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And so I'm telling him, I asked the GI nurse and she said she's going to talk to the doctor, and they'll message me.
Hopefully, they will message me.
And if they don't and my intestines burst again, y'all just keep in mind I kept asking.
You got any questions, Danny, on that?
Uh, no.
Huh?
If you can't pinch them out with that tool right there, you could hammer them in.
OK. And in here, it doesn't really matter.
There's some little stubs because they're not going to feel it with this board.
OK. And, um, we're going to do it a little different.
I don't like this style.
OK.
I'm going to have it come around this way.
It's like more complicated the way they did it.
There's always easier ways to do it.
Woman, voice-over: I would say more than anything, I'm working with heart, with corazón, and with my parents' spirit.
When I went through that one year of being in the hospital, I felt lucky to be alive.
So I figured, "Oh, OK, I'm going to start trying the things that I always wanted to do."
[over phone] Hi.
this is Gloria.
Please leave your number and leave a message.
Thank you.
Lucy: You're OK?
Danny: The little things.
You could pull them out in the meantime.
I know.
I can't there.
Hello, Glo.
Give me a call.
I got a quick question for you.
I'm working on some little quarter panels, and I needed to ask you a quick question.
Call me when you get a chance.
Bye.
[Indistinct] Lucy, voice-over: Right now, I'm just in a testing stage.
There's some things that I don't know if I can do.
Last Friday, I went to the doctor's.
They told me that you're still going to need one more surgery.
They say that I only have a 20% chance of surviving.
But she says, "I don't know.
You're looking better than you did three years ago."
Lucy: Hello.
Glo?
Hey, let me turn off the compressor.
[Shuts compressor off] Hey, I have a quick question for you.
I'm working on some little quarter door panels, and originally, they had cotton on there just to pad it a little.
And on the back dash, I know I used a white top pad.
But on those quarter panels, what do you recommend?
Yeah, out of black board.
Estaba bien brittle, so I went ahead and did a new board.
But the only problem es que, you know, like on the back dash, I put that top pad, you know, the white.
Oh, yeah.
On the door panels.
Right.
OK. All right.
I just wanted to make sure.
OK. All right.
Well, thanks a lot.
OK, bye.
Lucy, voice-over: My sister was 13 years old, but she would always say she wanted to be a teacher, she wanted to have six kids.
After she passed away, my dad told us that we were forbidden to say my sister's name ever again.
I could only imagine being a mother and being told by your husband that you're going to have to block that out.
She questioned God: "Why did He do this to us?"
My dad goes, "It's not something you did.
It's not anything.
She was here.
She was suffering."
He just threw himself into work.
Lucy: Whenever you want to take a break, you know you can take one.
Danny: I'd rather get it over now.
You're ready to get it over with?
I do want you to help me with that one, the flower one.
I'll get you a little jar or something.
♪ [Machine running] Lucy, voice-over: It took a long time for me to talk to anybody about what I saw while I was in the coma.
[Birds chirping] There was no tunnel.
It was very pretty and green.
I could only focus on my loved ones that had passed away.
They were waving at me, and I could see my sister Norma and my grandmother, who I thought was waving at me, suddenly started saying no.
And she started saying, "Go back."
I remember being like, "Why," you know, because I was so happy to see them.
But then I suddenly felt my arms pull back, and I was in restraints again.
And all of a sudden there's this nurse in my face, and she's like, "Are you awake?"
[Indistinct] Lucy, voice-over: I do have a lot of faith.
It might be my way of comforting myself.
[Sewing machine runs] Yeah.
That's better.
I do believe that for whatever reason, I'm still here.
There's a purpose.
We all have a purpose.
164 is a 62-year-old white female.
This is a suspected natural residential death of a woman with COPD, uh, tobacco use, diabetes, and obesity.
125 is a 78-year-old white male, [Clears throat] found dead at home, decomposing.
No next of kin.
94 is a 69-year-old black female suspected to be an accidental overdose.
72 is a four-month-old Hispanic male.
He was found unresponsive at home, co-sleeping with his uncle while his parents were at work.
171 is an 83-year-old white female.
This is an apparent homicide.
She was found unresponsive at home with some apparent sharp force injuries to her chest.
148 is a 65-year-old black male, residential death.
He's got Alzheimer's disease or other dementia and hypertension, and he just recently moved here from New York so that his family could-- they could take care of him.
Go back to that other case.
[Both clear throat] Body's cool, rigor's fully developed.
[Man repeating statement over phone] Posterior lividity is fixed, period.
There are no [indistinct], period.
Ears, nose and lips are unremarkable, period.
Teeth are natural and in fair condition.
Period.
The neck is unremarkable, period.
Chest and breasts are symmetrical, period.
The abdomen is [indistinct].
Period.
External genitalia, anus, perineum are unremarkable, period.
Extremities are well-developed and symmetrical.
And there is slight to moderate pitting at the end of the [indistinct].
Jeffrey Barnard, voice-over: Every case has a story.
Every single one of them.
♪ [Sound of camera shutter clicking] Our job is to determine the cause of death that is why they died, and the manner of death is how they died.
Jeffrey: That's fine.
Yeah.
I think we ought to get the head block, too, to try and get her up a little bit.
Jeffrey, voice-over: Natural disease, homicide, suicide, accidents.
That's next.
Ah.
Ready when you're ready.
Jeffrey, voice-over: Sometimes we end up being unable to determine, and we call them undetermined.
You really have to provide the best information you can.
[Tool buzzing] Jeffrey, voice-over: When you treat patients, you kind of have an idea of what a disease process looks like, but in this world, you actually see it.
♪ You see a lot of cases that are avoidable.
There's a lot of people that have come through that really shouldn't have died, at that time anyway.
I mean, human nature is what it is.
Gloria: Or these... [Object thuds] So these I have to put foam on and these I don't.
OK. Now, where'd I put the other piece?
It's over there.
Gloria, voice-over: Chicago.
I started kindergarten there all the way to sixth grade.
Being with family, a lot of cousins, aunts and uncles.
My family all of a sudden just decided to move.
We came to Texas.
I was like, "What are we doing here," you know.
My dad was doing well off over there, but since he left his business, he started off from the ground again, and we went through a lot of ups and downs money-wise, you know what I mean?
When I was 17, that's when my dad opened up a shop.
Gloria: OK?
This one's ready.
I started learning the trade and working, and my dad taught me.
He was a little tough, you know.
He wouldn't sugarcoat nothing, you know?
He'll just tell you the way it is.
You know, like, "You dumb ass."
You know, stuff like that.
When we first moved over here, we lived in east Dallas on Worth Street.
The kids didn't like me.
I told my dad, "Hey, these guys keep picking on me."
And my dad tells me, "Well, you have to fight 'em."
I go, "I don't want to fight 'em," you know?
He goes, "Tomorrow, I'm gonna get off early from work.
"I'll meet you at the house.
"Run as soon as you can, and we'll see which guys you're talking about."
I got out of school, I remember, and I ran real fast.
My dad was already waiting there.
He was sitting on the front steps on the porch.
He opened a knife and gave it to me.
He goes, "Go take care of it."
I went out there, and I swung, and the kids jumped back.
I remember I cut one of them in the hand.
They started running.
My dad starts laughing.
He goes, "mija," you know... You know... You know, "Them bullies think they're all bad-ass, "and then corriendo," you know.
My dad always pushed me to be tough, tough.
Maybe he noticed something.
He knew that I was a little feminine or something, and he's, "Hey, you got to be like this," or he'll talk to me mean, so I could be mean, too.
I was thinking maybe draw out the diamonds here and maybe this smooth and then diamond again on top inside, you know?
Man: [Indistinct].
And, um, yeah.
[Chuckles] We'll go two colors, or we could go just one solid.
Just one solid-- just black and probably gray or white and stitching will be fine.
Yeah.
Gray?
Yeah, gray or silver.
Yeah, gray or silver will stand out real nice, yeah.
Yeah.
OK, uh, any chance that we can do it for 300... 300?
Ooh...
I can leave it with you right now.
[Chuckles] Um...diamond, gray.
Yeah, we'll go 300.
[Rain] Arturo, voice-over: I noticed my dad being the way he is, when I used to go to his room and stuff when I was younger, and I'd see a lot of girl things, you know?
I didn't pay attention to it at first, but then I started thinking to myself, Well, why does he have that?
So when he came out, like, fully came out to who the person that he really was, yeah, it did hit me hard, you know... because I didn't want to think about it.
It went as far as my mom telling me that he wasn't my real dad.
But then, you know, I'm not-- I have a brain, too, so, of course that's my dad.
[Exhales] Gloria, voice-over: Their mom knew because I told her, "I don't think I could be with you."
She goes, "Why?
You don't love me?"
I go, "I do, but at the same time, "I cannot be with a woman because I want to...
I want to be a woman," you know?
I wanted to feel it.
I want to dress like a woman.
I want to be me.
She goes, "Well, we'll make it work," and this and that.
We had lots of fun, you know, me and her... going to buy lingerie together and stuff.
We made it work out, you know, until my daughter came around.
I had a garage in the back, and I had my whole wardrobe over there, but then I didn't have time to do that anymore, so that was the time I started using to stay awake-- get dressed up all night, go to sleep at 6:00, get up at 8:00, depressed, sad, a little angry at times, you know, at the whole situation.
I got real fed up, I got scared, I started thinking about it.
I said, "Well, what the heck," you know.
"Why am I not living the way I want to live?"
You know, my kids are getting older.
Went through a big ol' divorce mess.
She ended up getting arrested.
I got arrested, too.
I got locked up for 2 1/2, almost three, years, you know.
Back then, I didn't know what transgender was.
I just thought I was maybe gay, but I didn't feel gay.
I mean, I felt weird, you know, different.
Well, I don't know how gay feels, [Chuckles] but, you know, I'm just saying I felt different.
I just kept on, you know.
Started my hormones.
I said, you know what?
I'm going to do what I want to do because if I don't do it now, when am I going to be happy?
Arturo, voice-over: I notice people look, you know, and people were, like, freaked out, but, you know, it doesn't matter because he has a heart.
They have a heart.
You have a heart.
You have a brain.
You know, we all breathe the same air.
We're not breathing nothing different, you know.
It's all polluted.
Yeah.
[Rain] [Overlapping transmissions, indistinct] Reporter: ...and they're not getting a murder conviction today, we will...see protests down here tonight.
Of course, this has been one of the biggest trials that this city has ever seen, and today the nation was watching.
Anchor: Yeah, it is not over yet.
[Indistinct] is live at the courthouse, where the jury is going to get back to work here less than 12 hours from now.
Will Amber Guyger testify again tomorrow?
Different reporter: Well, she did during the jury trial.
She has that option.
Outside of an appeal, this may be her last chance to say something, maybe her last chance to save her character.
You know, she is at the Dallas County Jail, as you said, just across from here.
But it is her first night after the verdict...
Different reporter: ...in our county to be unhealthy.
And let's point out they also had limited access to health care.
Anchor: This is all according to a new report by the Parkland Health and Hospital System... [Overlapping transmissions] Different reporter: ...bright future.
And now we know a recent college grad found dead in her burning car died from a gunshot to the head.
Smoke inhalation was also...
Different reporter: Justice and judgment delivered with one word, guilty.
Amber Guyger, the former Dallas officer, shot and killed her neighbor, Botham Jean, in his own apartment.
After the unanimous verdict, she was slunk back in her chair...
Different anchor: ...the story you've been clicking on all day long--Joshua Brown was shot in Dallas...
Different reporter: Police could not determine if it was a man or a woman...
Different anchor: ...story that just keeps getting worse.
Those are the sounds of gunshots at a vigil for a murder victim.
Different reporter: ...testimony in the murder trial of Amber Guyger.
Dallas Police sources tell them... Joshua Brown... was shot and killed...
Different reporter: It's part of a much bigger problem.
Police say three transgender women have been targeted in the past seven months.
Different reporter: ...are understandably outraged.
Tonight, they are demanding answers.
They are demanding justice for that young woman who was shot and killed here inside her own home by a police officer that was called here to see if she needed help.
♪ Jeffrey, voice-over: Homicide rates fluctuate.
They were higher when I first started.
We had a lot of drug-related deaths.
They peaked a little bit more here lately.
There are going to be domestic deaths and domestic homicides, but for the most part, they end up being probably drug-related, that sort of thing.
The natural disease cases stay about the same percentage.
There's somewhere--You know, 45% to 55%, thereabouts.
Accidents with improved trauma surgeons, I think we maybe have had a little bit of a dip in car accidents, although we still get plenty of them.
People have always said, "Well, you know, around the holidays, you have an increase in suicides."
And I think there's probably a little bit of truth to that.
Many years ago, I got called about when we were in our economic depression as to whether we were seeing an increase in suicides, and the next month, they started to bump up.
♪ There certainly are more mass shootings than there used to be.
That's for sure.
And, you know, that gets into the politics of whether people should have a right to buy any kind of gun they want or whether there should be regulations, and that's what the politicians get paid to do.
But there is no question that these mass shootings are more frequent than they were.
I will also say that, you know, we have seen quite a few homeless cases.
Those people end up, a lot of times, in extremis with disease processes that are treatable.
And I'm not going to get into my own political view, except that I think everybody has a right to, you know, adequate medical care and medications.
And however that's done politically, then that's the way it needs to be dealt with.
♪ ♪ Man: Right.
Woman: OK.
So one burger with fries?
[Indistinct singing on radio] Singer: ♪ Jingle bells swing and jingle bells ring ♪ ♪ Snowin' and blowin' up bushels of fun... ♪ Pam Garner, voice-over: When I started at Parkland, I was in dietary, stocking the floors, making patient trays, and then I was moved to the catering area.
Almost like I can do a little bit of everything in there.
Parkland is a county hospital, and it's for the ones that don't have insurance.
They take prisoners and everything.
We help everybody.
Pam: Ooh!
Pam, voice-over: I was working for Parkland, and I kept getting sick.
I was like, "No, no, no."
So I went out to the emergency with my close friend, took a test.
I was like, "Oh, my God, girl."
She said, "What?"
I said, "I'm pregnant.
I ain't gonna tell nobody."
[Chuckles] I was more scared to tell my mom than anything because I was in shock.
Well, once he came out, they put him in my arms, I was like, "Oh, my God.
Look at this little baby.
I got a baby."
This is so exciting.
You know, just having a baby--me.
Lucy: No measuring.
[Chuckles] No measuring cups or anything.
[Blender whirring] Gloria: You use tomatillo in it?
Lucy: Yeah, and I didn't make it too spicy, and then I put oregano in it.
You got bacon in here, too, right?
Yeah, I put bacon in it because if I don't-- if I don't put bacon... Danny won't like it, or the kids?
Lucy: Yeah!
And I don't even know why I still worry about what he likes or not.
[Chuckling] I know.
He's your ex.
You know?
He's the ex.
Yeah.
Somebody used to sell some t-shirts that said "I survived growing up in Oak Cliff," and it's a whole little family.
The little girl's holding a flower, I believe, and the dad's holding up a machine gun.
[Chuckling] So it's like...
I used to wear that t-shirt all the time.
Danny's like, "Are you gonna take this?
Are you gonna take that?"
I'm like, "No, that's old.
I don't want it.
No, I don't want that."
And he's like, "Oh, you're leaving me all the old stuff."
Well, yeah, what do you think?
I'm like, "Yeah."
Lucy, voice-over: The way we grew up with my dad, it was like he stood his ground because there was times when we would sleep on the floor here.
I mean, literally drive-bys every weekend.
My dad would just say, you know, "Sleep on the floor.
It's a lot safer."
So when I got held up at my first job at a Payless Shoe store... [Chuckles] I didn't break down and cry or anything, and my manager actually thought I had something to do with it.
The officer goes, "Oh, no.
Lucy's family's been through a lot more."
She's probably just happy the gun didn't go off.
So they brung you that Caprice?
Lucy: Huh?
They brung you that Caprice?
Yeah.
It's right there.
Is it like the one you have over there?
Yeah, so I wanted to look at it.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
The doors are all brittle.
Oh, they are?
Yeah.
I'm going to probably be calling you when I need some help.
Yeah.
[Chuckles] Bueno.
See if it's soft.
♪ Gloria: I know Dad used to like 'em kind of chewy, too, right?
Lucy: Ooh.
Gloria: All right.
Yeah.
I need a little bit more minutes here.
A little more?
Should I put more water in it or no?
Mm-mm.
No?
Así.
Mm-hmm.
OK. Then let me put it back on.
You like the flavor of it?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah?
They're good.
I need a new pan.
Yeah, well, I know what to get you for Christmas.
[Laughter] Lucy, voice-over: It's been a struggle, but what I learned from all this is that everything happens the way it's supposed to happen.
I know, and I could see that God doesn't make any mistakes with our Glo.
If you were to sit down and talk to, like, my siblings, too, "Oh, Glo is the crazy one," you know, and, Glo this or Glo that... You know, the black sheep.
It feels so good to see him overcome what everyone expected him to be--her to be.
Gloria: When I went to pick up material, I seen, um, Sue out there.
Lucy: Oh, yeah?
Yeah.
Did she talk to you?
Yeah.
She said hi, and I gave her a hug, you know... Had she seen you since the...?
No.
Since the transition?
Since you started doing the change?
Yeah.
The changes.
No?
No, so she didn't.
I guess--I don't know if she recognized me or not because she just kept staring at me.
But she knew who you were or you don't know?
I don't know if she did or not because she just was staring, you know, like... Oh, yeah?
She didn't talk much.
Mm-hmm.
Huh.
♪ Mm, mm.
Lucy, voice-over: Everything has its reasoning.
That's why I really say God has his plans for us.
He makes no mistakes.
And I do believe when somebody ends up going through some rough times, sometimes it's because they're not listening to God's plan.
Jeffrey: So then my attorney sends me a text and says, "Are you having to go back?"
This is, like, 1:00 in the morning.
And I said, "Well, I don't know.
"How many people are dead?"
And she said, "Well, it looks like there are, like, five officers."
I'm like, "Yeah, I'm going back."
We had, like, 30 cases that day.
Woman: That was the sniper.
That was that sniper.
[Indistinct conversations nearby] Woman: I saw a chef talk about that, like, a week ago on the Cooking Channel.
And they said, if you put salt on your hands and you rub them together before you start cutting something, about the salt interacts... Man: Negates?
Yeah.
Whatever it is in an onion that makes you cry, it actually, like, stops it.
Woman: That is the worst.
It's my parents all the time.
Different woman: It's so disappointing.
Jeffrey, voice-over: It's the distraction that you need to have rather than you think about this all the time.
And everybody needs it.
Doesn't matter what your job is.
♪ I would say I probably don't ever completely let it go because I'm ultimately responsible for everything here.
And so I think about it a lot.
I worry about different things.
I try to keep ahead of things, but at least I get home with them and we have a good relationship.
We joke around together, and it is a distraction that keeps me anchored.
♪ I think we all spend too much time worrying about tomorrow instead of enjoying today, but, unfortunately, to get further down the road in an organized fashion, you kind of have to.
You can look back years later-- things you worry about and realize whether they did or didn't occur, they were going to anyway, so you should have enjoyed each day.
It's just, like I said, it's easier said than done.
♪ You see all these crazy things happen.
It's made me certainly more paranoid in terms of my kids and grandkids.
I overthink things, constantly worried about making sure something doesn't happen to one of my family members.
It certainly makes you aware of the tenuousness of life.
I mean, things can-- Today, things go well and tomorrow they can change completely.
Adults: Bless us, O Lord, and these, Thy gifts, which we are about to receive from Thy bounty, through Christ, our Lord.
Amen.
Jeffrey: OK. Child: God is great.
God is good.
Let us thank Him for our food.
By His hands we are fed.
Thank you for our daily bread.
All: Amen.
All right.
All right.
Thank you... [Child speaking indistinctly] [Woman chuckles] ♪ [Music playing, indistinct vocals] ♪ Pam, voice-over: I want something that he'll be excited about because he was telling me he wants to go to the Marines.
So me, coping with that, I was like, "Whew!
My baby gone, but I got to let him go."
[Applause] [Chuckles] ♪ Pam, voice-over: Them kids get so excited when they see their parents.
Oh, I mean excited.
So I want him to see that face, even when my mom come.
"Oh, now, girl, I gotta show out."
Whoo!
♪ You play "Broccoli" already?
You play "Broccoli" already?
[Indistinct] We gotta go back.
Pam, voice-over: 'Cause this it.
It could be their last time.
Like, you know, anything happening.
Yes, anything.
Like, one little girl at the school, her parents passed away-- her mom.
♪ You never know.
Man: Come on in.
Just a few minutes of your time, and you guys can go back to having a good time.
This will be the last time that a lot of us see each other until 2020.
Just think about all of the triumphs and all of the not so good times that we had.
That's what you grow from those times.
You grow from the times when we don't get what we think we should have... Kennedth, voice-over: Ever since way back-- probably middle school-- I always wanted to go to the Marines, and that was just something me and my best friend always wanted to do, and I just feel like they have benefits also, which would take less off of me and my family, so we don't have to spend as much.
Let's continue to do what we do best--hard work.
[Students chant, indistinct] Thanks, guys.
Merry Christmas.
[Cheering and applause] D.J.?
Pam, voice-over: Once he told me that-- I think it was three weeks ago-- "Mom, I think I'll change my major."
I said, "Well, what is it, then?"
He said, "Oh, I want to work with kids with disability.
I think that's what I want to do."
I just stopped to say, "Don't you know, that's what I've been waiting up for you to say?"
Something like that is just so exciting.
♪ Kennedth, voice-over: Her support is just--she's there.
Who wouldn't want to see their parent watching them do something that they love to do?
Because you never know how long I got or how long she has.
♪ ♪ [Tools buzzing nearby] ♪ ♪ Jeffrey: Over the years, it's been remarkable to me how many people, when we were trying to find the next of kin, we can't find anybody.
It is sad to know that there are people that are out there and they're obviously on their own.
♪ I focus on the issue at present, you know, because if you think too much about a lot of things-- you know, if you really got caught up-- "Well, this person was walking yesterday," and you get too much of that, you can't function, and so you have to be able to separate yourself from that, and you focus in on solving the mystery of why they died.
And then when I'm done with that, yeah, my self-defense mechanism is pretty strong.
When I'm done with that, I'm done with that.
♪ I, really, over the years, maybe have had three dreams that had anything to do with forensics, and it was a bit disturbing.
And so I don't think about it.
Yeah, I don't think about all the existential aspects of it.
♪ The vitality of life is something that you realize when you go to do an autopsy... because they're not the same person they were the day before when they were up and moving around.
♪ They don't have the vitality of what makes them who they are.
♪ ♪ Officiant: Ladies and gentlemen, by the authority of a license issued by the state of Texas, I'm privileged to be with you to celebrate the rites of matrimony between Delia and Abner.
If any person can show just cause why they might not be lawfully joined together, please let him or her speak or forever hold their peace.
I'm going to ask that you join hands as you... [Turns page] take your vows.
[Laughter] Abner, will you have this woman to be your wedded wife?
Will you love her, comfort her, honor, and keep her for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, keep only unto you, so long as you both shall live?
Abner: Yes.
Official: Great.
And, Delia, will you have this man to be your wedded husband?
Will you love him, comfort him, honor, and keep him for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, keeping yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live?
Yes.
[Turns page] Official: All right.
So, Abner, please repeat after me.
"Delia, with this ring..." Delia, with this ring... "I marry you..." I marry you... "and pledge to you..." and pledge to you... "my enduring love."
my enduring love.
All right.
You can put the ring on.
[Camera shutters clicking] All right.
And, Delia, please repeat after me, "Abner..." Abner... "with this ring..." with this ring... "I marry you..." I marry you... "and pledge to you..." and pledge to you... "my enduring love."
my enduring love.
All right.
You can place the ring on his finger.
This one?
Yes.
There you go.
[Laughter] ♪ Delia and Abner, our wish is that you all will enjoy all the comforts, endure all the challenges, and perform all the duties of life together, that you will not demand perfection but be quick to praise each other's strengths, that you will always see each other through a lover's kind and patient eyes, that you will give a part of yourselves to the other, yet retain your distinct personalities and identities, and that when the sun is setting, may you be found still hand in hand, as you are today, remembering the words, "Grow old along with me.
The best is yet to be."
I pronounce that you are husband and wife.
You may kiss your bride.
[Chuckles] Aw.
Congratulations.
[Applause, indistinct chatter] ♪ Jeffrey, voice-over: You don't know what's going to be tomorrow, and as easy as it is to say you should live every day for what it is, that is the reality.
You should.
And it's hard for all of us who are trying to, you know, set things down the road: "We're going to do this.
We're going to do that..." and you don't appreciate the day that you're living.
♪ You certainly hope that there is something far better on the other side... and you do come to grips with there are the realities of what our life is about and that, at some point, that life ends.
But what's on the other side?
You can hope and you can have faith in things, but, ultimately, you can't prove any of those.
And that's what the definition of faith is.
♪ ♪ [Wind blowing] [Birds chirping] Kennedth, voice-over: I feel like the afterlife is you die, and then there's just an alternative world... and just you have all of the things you did in your life surround you.
♪ And it's just you have that chance to go in there and be like, "This is what I did wrong and this is what I did right."
And after you chose that, that determines your fate or wherever you go.
[Crickets chirping] ♪♪